Hey, friends. It’s been a while since I properly sat down and wrote a tradition-styled Sunny Side Up. And despite everything in me screaming ” You have no idea what you’re talking about, give up on this” I’m pushing on. You may not know this, but I started my Sunny Side Up series because I wanted to not only reflect on my own personal growth, but also share with others what I’ve learned.
Because whether you’re feeling a little lost & uninspired, if you need that little extra push, or if you don’t have someone in your life to get advice from, I think it will help. Because I’ve been there. And I know you have as well. I wanted them to feel more like we are talking over coffee casually, not a self-help seminar. And every Sunday I try to push forward, ignore the negative voices, and talk to you all about tangible things to make you think. To ignite a fire within you.
And I’ll be honest, a lot of the time as I write these sort of posts my mind swirls with a thousand thoughts fleeting away before my fingers can even right them down. And fear settles in now and again.
And while a lot of the time fear can produce ugly negative feelings of self-doubt, it’s also an easy indicator that whatever it is that is bothering you matters. In some way, you care about it.
And in my case, I care about not just blogging, but sharing and helping others. And ultimately, my goal is to spread light to others.
I started thinking about this last night, actually, as I laid in bed to go to sleep. This past week I’ve been working a lot on opening up to people – personal and internet-wise, which is something that I’ve struggled with for as long as I can remember. I’m not very confrontational, and I definitely have a bad habit of bottling thoughts up and keeping them locked away in my mind.
But I honestly think that starting this blog has definitely made me more open, which has in turn reflected in my personal life. Which is so very essential to not only to your relationships with those in your life, but if you have readers/an audience who consume the content you create.
One thing that I can definitely can say about myself, is that I’m always evolving. I push forwards to learn, to grow, to have experiences, and to try and create the best possible version of myself that I can be.
And as you can imagine, that requires a lot of going out of your comfort zone and facing your fears head-on. Which is actually something that I just now started pushing myself to do. For years, I simply played it safe. If it was even the least bit terrifying, I didn’t bother going after it. And up until recently, I was content with that stagnant lifestyle.
And while the idea of diving into this journey of self expression and letting go of all fears is definitely something that does not come naturally, I know it’s something that is definitely essential to one’s growth.
And here’s a little guide I’m using to help make this easier:
01. Take a few moments and think about some goals you have, particularly the ones you may have tried but never succeeded at, or have been to afraid to go after. Write them down.
02. Why didn’t you meet these goals in the past? Was it your initial approach; were you doubting yourself before you even gave it a chance? Did you not plan it out properly? Are you letting the fear of failing strike you out? Knowing what your specific efforts (or lack there of) from the past will help you uncover exactly what it is that stopped you from getting where you want to be.
03. Once you know the ‘why?’, figure out the ‘how?’. How can you make the situation better? Maybe you need to find a new plan. Maybe you have to accomplish something before you get to the main goal. Maybe you need to find a better execution plan. Perhaps you need to take time to form a better habit to help it out. Perhaps you need to work on your self esteem. Whatever it is, remember to take it in small steps.
I love finding short term goals to coincide with your long term goals. Not only will it help you remain focused, it will also help ensure that you won’t go off track and lose sight of your goal.
04. Remember that it won’t be linear. Your progress will fluctuate. And that’s okay. Every step, even the ones that aren’t ideal, is an opportunity for a lesson learned. (For all my perfectionists out there: it’s going to be tough, but finding ways to stop letting the idea of perfection hinder you. I watched Samantha’s Live Stream yesterday all about this, which was fabulous. She has a bootcamp beginning September 12th that’s all about how to overcome the idea of perfection, making better habits, etc. that looks absolutely fabulous and I can’t wait to give it a try!).
05. Take a leap of faith, and actually begin. A lot of the battle is simply beginning something new. It’s so much easier to live comfortably, but in the end you have to truly think about what is more satisfactory. Not trying, or accomplishing something that has been on your personal To-Do list for quite some time now.
What are some goals that you used to let fear take control of? Let’s start a discussion in the comments! For me, I’ve been wanting to take courses to learn more about makeup, but was always afraid that I wouldn’t be good enough. I’ve also been wanting to start making zines and other outlets to share my more personal writing, poems, etc. Ultimately, I would love to grow as a writer and become a published author or produce some sort of online magazine.
Side Note: I’m thinking about doing some sort of printable worksheet that goes more in detail on how to plan, accomplish your goals, and guides you along the way. Would you be interested in seeing something of the sort? I would love to know your thoughts on me doing this!
And as always, stay bright.